With regards to ‘defining the bully’, I think Frank had some really great points. What is a bully? I think he was right about the fact that a ‘bully’ is someone who persistently seeks power by taking away that of others; by making others feel bad. It is someone who has developed a pattern; someone who seeks to keep things imbalanced in his or her own favour. These tendencies – to be on top, hierarchically speaking – might be developing even earlier on and more aggressively in our ever-increasing, hyper competitive world, but they do not have to.
Guest Author and Psychologist Howard Glasser explains why standard ways of responding to children’s misbehaviors usually lead to more of the same, and he presents a way out!
The recent suicide of an apparently mentally normal acquaintance moved the author to speculate on how the presumption of insanity in cases of suicide, once a type of legal defense, has become a cultural assumption.
Research has shown that procrastination has negative effects on our well-being, but there is hope for the chronic procrastinator!
Ever seen the show Scared Straight? It’s about giving ‘bad kids’ a taste of their own medicine, so that they might modify their behaviour to something more becoming of a ‘good, law-abiding citizen.’ Not a bad idea in theory.
But when I watched this acclaimed program, what I saw was large, seasoned, angry bullies bullying smaller unseasoned ones.
In part two of a two part article, author Randi G. Fine shares an excerpt from her new book, Awaken From Life: Lessons for Discovering Your Personal Truths.
I was 13 years old. As one of the pallbearers, I stood at the end of the line, watching the casket sliding from the hearse. Suddenly, I felt weak. Grief rushed through me in a way I hadn’t known before. I turned away, just at the time when I should have been reaching up. My uncle turned and screamed something nasty at me. What exactly, I don’t remember. Only that “do your job” was tagged to the end of it. I didn’t forgive him for years for that, even though it was mostly a reaction out of fear that the casket would fall.
We all feel envious sometimes. It’s human to feel want for things ‘the cool kids’ have; to feel entitled to take and have all that which others take and have. It’s everywhere: Google ‘envy pictures.’ Social media plays on this ‘you deserve more’ concept, like it’s a mark of evolution, strength and discipline to take more and more, just like ‘these successful, wealthy people did!’ Left unmarked, envy has become a rather nasty, infectious social disease.
I’m an unabashed, unapologetic, died in the wool introvert. A marginalized being often seen as deprived and depraved by the majority of the planet’s population.
No one should think themselves so important as to be ‘the judges’ of others. What one predominantly sees as ‘wrong’ in the world and in others is typically a reflection of those qualities they dislike in themselves.