Recovering from the effects of growing up with a violent alcoholic involves a lot of hard work.
Have you ever felt like you should be apologizing for even being born? I took on a sense of shame, of being a mistake, from an early age.
For many adult children of alcoholics, the traumatic events of their youth interrupt their growth process – leaving them dealing with life as small children.
As I developed my creativity, I thought it was appropriate to have role models – persons with qualities I wanted to develop as I went through life.
Today let’s talk about delayed reactions. Has someone ever said something, and you figure out the absolute wonderful response – 3 days later?
By walking in my Dad’s shoes – by exploring his story – I healed my past and claimed my own path and my birthright – to be a writer and a teller of stories.
Today let’s talk about being a lost child. Usually there’s one child in an alcoholic family who gets lost in the shuffle.
Today let’s talk about blocked creativity. The origin of my writer’s block was a bizarre comment by my grandmother when I was eight.
In working through my own issues, I found I was much more like my Dad than I had realized, and parts of his journey had illuminated my path to healing.
Today let’s talk about putting people in categories. I would label people and then have unreasonable expectations on the basis of the label, not the person.