Just as our story, Two Peas In A Separated Pod: A True Story of Adoption is told, Carole and I would like to tell you what it was like for us when we found each other. Our book starts when we were born and how life went on not knowing about each other. Jeannie, from The Bronx, NY always knew she was adopted and Carole, growing up in Northern Ontario, was an only child unaware there was a sibling out in the world.
Here is what it was like for Jeannie when she found out who her birth mother was and building a relationship with her new sister, Carole:
After a lengthy search I finally found out who my birth mother was. As I was making that first phone call, I felt a whirlwind of emotions. What would I find at the other end of the phone. Would she accept me as her daughter? Would she be happy to hear from me? Would she shut me out? Would she hate me for finding her? Did she want to live her life and forget about me? Would I stir up bad feelings in her? Would this be a big mistake? As I picked up the phone to call her I would slam it back down. I did this several times. Finally I decided what I didn’t know was hurting me so I forged ahead and dialed the phone.
The initial phone call was not as I had hoped but not terrible. She just needed some time. I found out I had a sister named Carole. My sister was pregnant with her first child. Would she be as accepting of me as my birth mother was? To my surprise she made the first contact. I received a very nice and polite letter. She wanted to get to know me more! I was over the moon.
After corresponding through mail and MSN Messenger we were becoming more comfortable with each other. We asked a lot of questions and found out we had a lot in common.
Making first contact is a scary thing. Sometimes you have to just plunge in and take the chance. Preparing yourself mentally is important. Making that first phone call and expecting everything to go smoothly can set you up for a big disappointment. You never know, you can find something wonderful like I did.
This is just a small part of Two Peas In A Separated Pod: A True Story of Adoption
available on Amazon.com
Book cover – used with permission
Guest Author Bio
Carole Sanguedolce and Jeannie Lachman
When telling people about their story, people always seemed to say it should be a book. Carole Sanguedolce, a bookkeeper, is a wife and a mother of a daughter. Jeannie Lachman, a homemaker, is a wife, mother of two daughters and grandmother. Finding each other was a blessing.
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