Today let’s talk about being a peacemaker.
Do you hate conflict? Want to always make peace wherever you are?
I learned that as a child – to smooth over the rough waters so conflict would hopefully go away. I did it out of self protection – if there was no conflict, there could be no dangerous backsplash onto me. If my parents were arguing in the living room, My Dad had to go somewhere with all that pent up emotion, and that could be dangerous! His anger would bubble and fester, and he might later come and take it out on me. I had to learn as an adult that two people having a disagreement didn’t mean they were going to have a violent confrontation – I had to stand back and let people work things out on their own. Very freeing for me!
Have you ever played the peacemaker in your world?
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