Minute to Freedom #22: Loss of Identity

Today let’s talk about loss of identity.

Have you ever experienced acting a different way in a group to be able to blend in?

It is said that growing up in an alcoholic family, you learn to be a chameleon – you become whatever you think people need you to be, in order to fit in and go along with the crowd. I was very good at it, and it took a long time to discover that I was losing myself in the process. I went to a dude ranch once as a guest, and played the cowboy part so well that some visitors thought I was one of the horse wranglers who worked at the ranch. By trying to blend in around people, I wasn’t being true to myself. By learning how to just be myself and let that be OK, I have been much more relaxed in social settings.

Have you ever felt like you were losing yourself in a group?

 

Photo Credit

Blending in by pushthisbutton @ flickr.com – Creative Commons – Some rights reserved.

Dan L. Hays offers encouragement for adult children of alcoholics.
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