Relationships fizzle out for all kinds of reasons. Ali Dubrow shares her deal breakers? What are yours?
I’ve recently started a new job for an upcoming relationship show. I don’t want to reveal too much just yet, because what would that leave me with to tell you? Nothing!
There are several components to this show, but they all revolve around one final decision. And when it comes to decisions, there are many components. Am I making any sense? I’ll just spell it out: relationship deal breakers. Whether you’re the type of person who keeps a working list of them (what? that’s completely normal…right?) or not, we all have them. Today, I give you mine.
Arrogance. To me, there’s nothing less attractive than a guy who loves himself just a little too much. Confidence? Sexy. A pompous ass? Nahsomuch.
Not paying on the first date. I’m by no means a traditionalist. But tact is tact, and a guy that doesn’t pay on the first date (not just offering, but actually paying) is a goner. This is a deal breaker I’ve accumulated from experience. I’ll always make the courtesy reach for that check, but that doesn’t mean you take me up on it.
Stage Five Clinger. I’m one of those people who craves her alone time. And I even live alone. That’s how much this gal likes her space. Constantly needing/wanting to be together is a turn-off for me. (And yes, I realize how disgustingly distant I’m coming off right now.)
No sense of humor. I saved the most important one for last, because it’s just that important. I’m a firm believer that laughter is, in fact, the best medicine. That it is a form of exercise. That it’s sexy. Catch my drift? If you’re not funny, I’m out. And I’m serious. (Get it? I’m hilarious.)
What are your relationship deal breakers?
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“I’m by no means a traditionalist. But tact is tact, and a guy that doesn’t pay on the first date (not just offering, but actually paying) is a goner.” Wow. Seriously? The other three you mention are right on, but in the topsy-turvy modern dating world, you’re willing to get rid of an otherwise perfectly good dating candidate because he’s not following some archaic dating ritual? Most of the women I have gone out with, whether only on first dates, or for longer periods, have wanted to split the check, at least in the beginning. A few have even taken the check and paid it themselves. I’m more than willing to offer to pay some of the time, but as a rule on a first date? I just don’t see that logic applying around the board these days.
You’re certainly entitled to your deal breakers, and I’m sure there’s at least one in my bag that others would shoot down as well, but tossing out a man solely because of not paying for the bill seems pretty foolish, and you know, the whole reach for the check and expecting the man to know that game and play along is just that: game playing.
And game playing is high on my list of deal breakers – lmao.
Selfishness (or self-absorption, thoughtlessness), controlling behaviour, inability or unwillingness to communicate. Maybe they’re all in the same basic category. I also like your 1 & 4.