Rick Bateman explores how the human propensity to live in a world of “What Should Be” instead of “What Is” is a recipe for suffering. So how do we free ourselves?
Wanting things to be different than they are is our greatest cause of suffering. Resistance to “What Is” sets off a chain of entanglements which traps emotions and prevents them from passing through us as they should. Instead we trap them and in turn are trapped by them and so our feelings of grasping or aversion linger and we suffer.
Always we seek half of life. We seek to feel happiness, joy, pleasure and ease. When these occur we accept them as “What Is”. However when we feel unhappiness, sadness, pain and difficulty, we do not accept them as “What Is” but instead feel something is wrong. Someone has made a mistake. If only things had turned out differently, then we would be happy. This is the recipe for suffering.
The human mind seeks to understand but it unconsciously crosses a line. It shifts from wanting to understand to wanting explanations in the form of rules and laws that are not subject to change. The mind has crossed from seeking understanding to seeking certainty.
Herein lies one of the great challenges for those who would understand Buddhism (and life itself); that we seek a set of immutable rules and laws (certainty) by which to define something whose defining characteristic is change (uncertainty) itself. What we are really doing by such efforts is trying to eliminate uncertainty. It cannot be done, as one of the oldest texts in the world, the Tao Te Ching, tries to explain in its opening chapter:
The Tao that can be told
is not the true Tao.
The name that can be named
is not the true name.
The unnameable is the eternally real.
Naming is the origin
of all particular things.
Caught in desire,
you see only the manifestations.
Free from desire,
you realize the mystery.
We slip into seeking certainty with no awareness of doing so because it is our nature. Our brain is always seeking resolution, completion, to make “sense” of the world. It is a survival mechanism which evolved to help us avoid danger. Consider our prehistoric ancestors daily lives — what we didn’t know could hurt us. Physically, our brains have evolved little in the past ten thousand years. Yet even ten thousand years ago, our prehistoric ancestors practicing Yoga in the jungles of the Indus river and laying down the foundations of what would one day give rise to some of the worlds great religions, were trying help us come to terms with this mystery.
The ideas of certainty, trust and control are closely related and the mindset that seeks to eliminate uncertainty always leads to a desire for rules and laws. Where there is no trust, we make laws and excessive lawmaking leads to “the dark side”. It is always depicted in story and film as evil, a command and control culture with rigid social divisions. In its ultimate form of evil it is presented as machine intelligence. Consider movies like The Matrix, Terminator, or character such as Star Trek’s Borg. This is because we know it is unsustainable and dangerous in the long run in a world where the ultimate law is change. It is how spirituality becomes religion, how faith becomes fundamentalism, how love becomes hate. Yet this same certainty is what we often seek within our own lives.
When we feel happy, it is almost always related to some form of illusion of certainty. When we feel unhappy it is similarly related to a feeling of uncertainty. To avoid the endless seeking for certainty, for only half of life, we must override this default programming. We must embrace and transcend both certainty and uncertainty.
Yet there is in reality only change and thus only uncertainty. Certainty is always an illusion. Thus by accepting uncertainty we have embraced all of life. Then we accept happiness, joy, pleasure and ease but also unhappiness, sadness, pain and difficulty with the same response. Ultimately, transcending both, we see certainty and uncertainty as necessary illusions, for like the ephemeral poles of some subatomic particle, when looked for carefully, neither can be found. There is only, “What Is”.
I am the rest between two notes,
which are somehow always in discord
because death’s note wants to climb over —
but in the dark interval, reconciled,
they stay there trembling.
And the song goes on, beautiful.
— Rainer Maria Rilke
Photo Credits
“Lao Tzu” Wikimedia Commons. Public Domain.
Poem Acknowledgment
Poem: “My Life Is Not This Steeply Sloping Hour” by Rainer Maria Rilke (1875–1896)
Recent Rick Bateman Articles:
- Buddhism and Ayn Rand
- Longing for Certainty
- Buddhism And The Romantic Poet
- Buddhism and the Dragons Of Eden
- My Buddhist Practice Meets the Specter of Death by Cancer
Enjoyable article, this one. Thank you