Today let’s talk about being gentle with myself.
Have you ever felt like you’re too tough on yourself?
It often seemed like I was doing that – nothing I ever did measured up, and I would focus on the strikeout I had in the softball game, rather than the 3 hits and the great catch I made in the outfield. I learned that behavior as a child. When I had a great game, my Dad would point out that my throw to the second baseman had been late, and the runner moved ahead an extra base. I had to unlearn that behavior as an adult. I had to learn to be gentle in measuring my performance, like I could do for others, but hadn’t been able to do for myself. When I learned to accept the strikeout and be thrilled about the great catch, boy did life get more fun!
Have you ever struggled to be gentle with yourself?
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Dan L. Hays offers encouragement for adult children of alcoholics.
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You’re quite welcome, Racquel! If you grew up like we did, it all resonates, doesn’t it? Yes, the scars familiar and deep – well said! Sometimes I say “I may heal the wounds, but I’ll always have the scars.” I know things from my growing up years – things I’d rather not know or be aware of.
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Dan
Thanks, Dan. I certainly relate to many of your “minutes.” The scars from growing up in an alcoholic family are so familiar, and they run deep.