Being a peacemaker can be a role learned in childhood to avoid conflict, but learning to distinguish when two people just disagree can be very freeing.
Minute To Freedom
Dan L. Hays offers encouragement for adult children of alcoholics.
Instead of responding to life based on old messages, affirmations can be used to reprogram unhealthy beliefs.
The turbulence of growing up in an alcoholic household results in many adult children of alcoholics having constant upset stomach problems from stress.
Adult children of alcoholics grew up with double messages: You’re incompetent/take care of the house – which are very confusing.
In some cases, being the clown in social settings is just a mask, hiding the real pain and sadness a person is feeling.
Not to decide is to decide – and for some people, this means less exposure to being held responsible if things work out badly.
Sometimes we can think that there is some solution that is just going to magically appear and make our world better.
I sometimes get so wrapped up in the big events of my world that I forget to stop and appreciate small but significant things that surround me every day.
As adult children of alcoholics embrace their inner child, it helps them move beyond, grow up and function as adults.
For many adult children of alcoholics, serenity is just an abstract concept that takes a long time to understand.