With regards to ‘defining the bully’, I think Frank had some really great points. What is a bully? I think he was right about the fact that a ‘bully’ is someone who persistently seeks power by taking away that of others; by making others feel bad. It is someone who has developed a pattern; someone who seeks to keep things imbalanced in his or her own favour. These tendencies – to be on top, hierarchically speaking – might be developing even earlier on and more aggressively in our ever-increasing, hyper competitive world, but they do not have to.
I believe that people are indeed suffering from imbalances. It is my contention, however, that these imbalances do not originate in the brain, but instead in the world around us. Further, I would argue that the mental illness epidemic is in large part a natural neuro-biological reaction to massive consumption of unnatural bio-chemical substances and paralysing toxic circumstances.
I found words like ‘man-haters’, ‘feminazis’ (a hideous term which marries the word ‘feminine’ with Nazi-ism) and ‘radicals’ (which by definition means ‘favoring or effecting fundamental or revolutionary changes in current practices, conditions, or institutions’, but which also has a distinctly negative connotation in the realm of feminism). One female blogger wrote, “feminists are trying to make us believe there is this ghastly patriarchy that is ruling the land and that women need special treatment.”
Ever seen the show Scared Straight? It’s about giving ‘bad kids’ a taste of their own medicine, so that they might modify their behaviour to something more becoming of a ‘good, law-abiding citizen.’ Not a bad idea in theory.
But when I watched this acclaimed program, what I saw was large, seasoned, angry bullies bullying smaller unseasoned ones.
We all feel envious sometimes. It’s human to feel want for things ‘the cool kids’ have; to feel entitled to take and have all that which others take and have. It’s everywhere: Google ‘envy pictures.’ Social media plays on this ‘you deserve more’ concept, like it’s a mark of evolution, strength and discipline to take more and more, just like ‘these successful, wealthy people did!’ Left unmarked, envy has become a rather nasty, infectious social disease.
Social fear tactics do not work on those who have no social fear. Now I’m not suggesting spontaneously freaking out to incite reactions from innocent shoppers, but just as a for instance, would it hurt anyone to intentionally walk like a zombie down the street, trying not to laugh at the absurdity of the situation – at the others who unintentionally walk like zombies down the street?