Today let’s talk about instant intimacy.
I heard a guy say one time in a men’s group that he could fall in love, become involved,
get rejected and feel sad, all while walking past a woman he didn’t know at the park.
We all laughed because we related. One of the effects of growing up in an alcoholic family was a tendency for instant intimacy – trying to become involved too quickly. For me it involved telling a woman my whole life story, on the first date. I would pour out my soul to her, not realizing how overwhelming and needy that sounded, and how it actually pushed women away. And I would wonder why the woman shyed away from a second date. I had to learn to slow down and get to know people a little bit at a time, and allow relationships to develop naturally.
Have you ever experienced instant intimacy?
Dan L. Hays offers encouragement for adult children of alcoholics.
The podcasts of these episodes can be found at: Minute to Freedom
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