Great thoughts and ideas flood to me when I am training. I need to train in order to maintain well being, health and positive flow. Recently, I was injured in a car accident and have been spiraling downward without my training routines, partners and places. But I am not the type to give up — not after everything I’ve not given up on so far.
While cleaning a toilet today, a fine idea came to me: Train my mind while my body heals. Work out in a different way. This is what a real spiritual warrior does. Like water, she yields to all obstacles. So I paid extra attention to detail while at this job. I was happy: I moved slower than usual and it somehow gave my intention new meaning. My cleaning was more of a cleansing. For everyone involved. My mind felt fortified with new conviction to use what I have learned in a way that will make me even more humble and uninhibited in my efforts when I return to the ring.
This is something that came about as a result of thinking outside of the box. I usually think outside the box but I realize now, like most everyone, I reserve my ‘thinking outside the box training’ for a specific place, time, with specific people, expecting specific results. This was a recipe for disappointment.
There is nothing wrong with my methods perhaps, but when I do not apply them to every aspect of life — even those outside of my comfort zones — then I am locked into the closed box mind set. Which is precisely what I am training to break out of.
It’s ironic. The problem really is the solution. I have been kicked out of the closed-minded club for once and for all. I am applying what I have learned from this to my work.
Here is a list of ten things that I feel are essential to good friendships, business partnerships, networking skills and well being in general.
#1 Always leave a PME (Positive Memorable Experiences). Making a positive and memorable impression on people will leave everyone feeling good and wanting to know more about each other.
#2 Use confident body language. Confident body language speaks volumes.
- Maintain eye contact to show you are not lying or hiding, both of which can immediately dismantle the potential for trust
- Listen. Do not look around at other things when someone is talking to you; that is the epitome of bad manners and shows a lack of interest and insufficient attention span, neither of which are character traits of a thoughtful friend or business person.
- Assert your confidence by maintaining an upright posture and being aware of your center. (Subtly elongate the spine when nervous)
- Smile when opening and closing any conversation. A genuine smile is immediately disarming
- Set a good example and watch it pay forward
- Remember, less is sometimes more in movement and speech.
#3 Ask meaningful questions and reciprocate by giving meaningful feedback. It’s amazing what can happen when two people are on the same page. Two minds have the power of ten, exponentially.
#4 Relate your expertise to a client’s specific situation.
#5 Be assertive but not aggressive. The intelligent assertion of self in the presence of another is a real payoff.
#6 Go above and beyond as a rule.
#7 Be reliable. Don’t say one thing and do another.
#8 Be honest.
#9 Be humble.
#10 Be grateful.
#11 Keep in touch with people on both a professional and non-professional level. People need each other. To give time generously, even when it does not involve business, even when it is not convenient for us, makes for excellent trust and improved potential for networking.
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